Old Friends Indeed
Around eight years ago, I remember reading "How to Talk to Anyone" by Leil Lowndes.
One of her top tips for boosting your charisma was to treat new associates just like old friends. Literally, trick your mind into believing they're a true bosom-buddy you haven't seen for years.
You'll instantly be more relaxed, suggests Leil, and you'll come across as more authentic.
Well, it works. I've used it many times myself.
However there's another little-known "old friend" technique I often use.
I'm sure there have been times in your life when you don't quite understand the actions of someone else. They're frustrating. Idiotic. Insensitive. Insane. Hateful! Pure hateful!
Of course.
In the words of Hercule Poirot, "We all feel like that at times."
But here's a way to neutralise all of that...
Simply imagine that person as a baby. And then, briefly, run through their entire life timeline. Their surroundings. Their influences. Their inner-character. Right up to the present day.
And, often, we find that although it may seem odd to us... Their behaviours are perfectly normal to them. They're the result of everything they've been brought up to do and believe.
They're the result of influence... And you can love them just for that.
It's a great method of letting go of any bad feelings you may have toward anyone. And if you still find them harbouring just beneath the surface, give them permission to be just the way they are.
That's all for now. Have a great day!
(Oh, and by the way... Leil Lowndes also wrote the books "Undercover Sex Signals," "How to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You," and the how-to-go-out-with-people-prettier-than-you guidE, "Updating." I hasten to add that I have bought none of these.)
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by Karl
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